A Nonsense Recommendation To Get Back With Your Ex
Just like practically everyone in this world, we all have been dumped or we have dumped our exs, and yes, it is something horrible, but it is part of life and it is something we have to experience to grow and move on. But hey, this very same situation has placed us in the position of saving a relationship, which is what I am all about…
Personally, I think if someone decided to split up with you, it will be worse for him or her. And if it was you who determined to break up, well… if you want to get back, why, on earth, did you decide to split up?
Let’s be honest, there are relations that simply resemble vessels that become old, leaky, rusty, with broken sails and do not to move forward because their timber is in such a poor condition that are simply designed to sink into the sea regardless of any effort. And the truth is that any attempt to get back with your ex in such cases is, regrettably, a futile exercise and a real emotional drain.
However, for those cases in which saving a relationship is of most importance, the relationships can be more “restorable” so to speak and if you really want and do think that you can get back with your ex, well, maybe it is worth trying.
But before actually talking about this, you have got to be absolutely clear why the relationship broke up in the first instance…
If you do not, it does not matter if you get back with your ex, or if you get together with someone else different, you will be making the same error over and over again, with the same person or, worse, with a different one!
Ready?
The truth: putting into perspective the situation and placing yourself in a position of saving a relationship, takes some time and effort and you must to understand this step. So, if you really think you can make him/her come back and you know that you are not simply falling into a desperate hunt for instant gratification, go for it. Arm yourself with patience and keep this in mind:
Do you know why gold is valuable? The answer is: Because it’s not abundant!
And that is just the milestone to make someone wanting to get back with us.
No, the key is not to get him/her an expensive gift, but to become a little more scarce than usual. So, if after the split, the two of you are still talking, then cut this off and arm yourself with patience and wait.
For if you break the pattern that she/he has you for granted, then, all of the sudden, your Ex will immediately notice it and his/her mind will begin to tell “… oh, oh, what is happening? Why can I not have what I always used to have? Have I really lost him/her?”
And suppose this happens, if it really was any chance of saving a relationship and getting back together, his/her mind will begin to imagine all kind of scenarios. One of them will be to get back with you.
Refrain from any contact, and if you happen to talk with him or her, focus on what your ex tells you and do not give away many information about you. Keep your conversations very short and always hang up and say goodbye first over the phone.
Most exs are quite blatant and normally keep in touch just to have you under control, taking your emotional temperature and making sure to fan the flames of your expectations high enough just to keep you there. The reason? If things do not work out with other people, you are there as his/her better than anything prize or worse, his/her emotional accomplice!
That sounds harsh, but it is true. Thus, it is required for you to take the bull by the horns and take control of the situation.
Simply disappear…
That is it, a technique 100% psychological, no witches, potions or nonsense.
This is my best advice for those who like to stay there and “spend” time and emotional energy on someone who has moved on instead of “investing” time and emotional energy into something/someone better to come.
Not saving a relationship is part of human nature and it is a choice. It is also an experience that, once the right amount of time passes by, you will look back and say, “definitely, that was the best thing that could have happened.”
Good luck if you decide to get back.
But best wishes if you opt to move on.
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